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February 2nd, 2021|Personal|

#ITSNOTOK and #ItStillMatters. It's not Ok that people are sexually abused, as a child, as an adult, by another child, by an adult. Whenever you were abused, it still matters. You matter. Help is out there. In collaboration with Safeline and with the Ministry of Justice (MoJ) I did an interview with a journalist from The Sun

Recovery discoveries

January 12th, 2021|Personal|

Recovery discoveries As we start another weird year, I've been taking stock of some of the discoveries that I've made on my long journey of healing and recovery. Here are some of them, including taming flashbacks; finding PTG; mind, brain and body links; EMDR; learning how to accept my mum's failings and still hold her good mum

Re-assembling myselves

December 17th, 2020|Personal|

Re-assembling myselves I was so traumatised during the abuse that happened to me during my childhood that I had to separate out different parts of myself. It was just too much to grasp, too much to experience at the time and so I would retreat into, sometimes out of, myself. These selves, parts, littles, inner

Reporting to the police

April 27th, 2020|Personal|

Why report? The conviction rate for rape is dismally low (Guardian article September 2019). The conviction rate for historical child sexual abuse (BBC News article 2016) is even lower. So why did I report to the police three times? Not really with any hope of convictions, I have to say. Although it would have

The weight of waiting

April 1st, 2020|Personal|

The weight of waiting My father started abusing me when I was a very small child. Touching me, making me touch him. Putting his fingers in me. Putting his willy in my mouth. Raping me. I don’t really remember a time when I was safe. I do remember waiting. Waiting for the next time. Waiting

Re-setting the smoke detector

April 1st, 2020|Personal|

Re-setting the smoke detector The human brain’s primary function is to keep us alive. It does a very good job too; largely undetected, it makes sure that we keep breathing, that our temperature remains normal, that our hormones are well-regulated etc. It also uses our senses to constantly scan the environment to check for danger. This

I have no words

April 1st, 2020|Personal|

I have no words There have been many times when I have experienced that awful feeling of simply not being able to speak. It’s not that I don’t want to verbalise my thoughts, sensations or feelings, I simply do not have any words. Sometimes I’ve been sitting in a therapy room, sometimes I’ve been on

Being ill

March 15th, 2020|Personal|

Being ill - March 2020 I’ve been ill for the past two and a bit weeks. I have what the pharmacist called, “A viral”. I think that’s a technical term for a head cold. Anyway, I’ve had a lot of the unpleasant symptoms of a cold, notably exhaustion, coughing that wakes me up in the

Why me?

March 12th, 2020|Personal|

Why me? - March 2020 Survivors of sexual abuse try to make sense of why abuse has happened to them. It is very common for a survivor to conclude that they are responsible for the abuse. I too decided early in my childhood that I must have been bad, that there was something wrong with

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Episode 12: Learning to love myself

March 13th, 2021|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 12 Learning to love myself Janet met Jess through the charity, Angles, when Jess wanted to meet people with lived experience of sexual abuse for a podcast she was producing. The podcast

Episode 11: Safeline specialist services

January 19th, 2021|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 11 Neil Henderson talks about Safeline Neil talks warmly, passionately and compassionately about his involvement with the charity Safeline, its volunteers and staff and the support it offers to people who have

Episode 10: Choosing to be apart

November 18th, 2020|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 10 In conversation with Nicole Nicole was sexually abused by her grandfather when she was a child. She reported to the police fairly recently and got a conviction, her grandfather then being

Episode 9: From struggle to recovery

November 13th, 2020|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 9 In conversation with Greg Greg is a male survivor of child sexual abuse, both familial and by a stranger. Greg talks candidly and movingly about his long struggles with depression and

Episode 8: Challenging the silence

July 21st, 2020|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 8 In conversation with Alex Feis-Bryce from SurvivorsUK Alex is the CEO of SurvivorsUk, which supports men and non-binary people who have experienced sexual violence as an adult or a child. Alex

Episode 7: Keeping children safe

June 5th, 2020|Podcast|

Podcast summary Episode 7 In conversation with Emma and Patrinda from Safeline Emma and Patrinda both work at Safeline in the Education and Prevention Services. Emma outlines some of the projects that she works on

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