Why report? The conviction rate for rape is dismally low (Guardian article September 2019). The conviction rate for historical child sexual abuse (BBC News article 2016) is even lower. So why did I report to the police three times? Not really with any hope of convictions, I have to say. Although it would have
The weight of waiting My father started abusing me when I was a very small child. Touching me, making me touch him. Putting his fingers in me. Putting his willy in my mouth. Raping me. I don’t really remember a time when I was safe. I do remember waiting. Waiting for the next time. Waiting
Re-setting the smoke detector The human brain’s primary function is to keep us alive. It does a very good job too; largely undetected, it makes sure that we keep breathing, that our temperature remains normal, that our hormones are well-regulated etc. It also uses our senses to constantly scan the environment to check for danger. This
I have no words There have been many times when I have experienced that awful feeling of simply not being able to speak. It’s not that I don’t want to verbalise my thoughts, sensations or feelings, I simply do not have any words. Sometimes I’ve been sitting in a therapy room, sometimes I’ve been on
Being ill - March 2020 I’ve been ill for the past two and a bit weeks. I have what the pharmacist called, “A viral”. I think that’s a technical term for a head cold. Anyway, I’ve had a lot of the unpleasant symptoms of a cold, notably exhaustion, coughing that wakes me up in the
Why me? - March 2020 Survivors of sexual abuse try to make sense of why abuse has happened to them. It is very common for a survivor to conclude that they are responsible for the abuse. I too decided early in my childhood that I must have been bad, that there was something wrong with
Podcast summary Episode 8 In conversation with Alex Feis-Bryce from SurvivorsUK Alex is the CEO of SurvivorsUk, which supports men and non-binary people who have experienced sexual violence as an adult or a child. Alex
Podcast summary Episode 7 In conversation with Emma and Patrinda from Safeline Emma and Patrinda both work at Safeline in the Education and Prevention Services. Emma outlines some of the projects that she works on
Podcast summary Episode 6 in conversation with Jenny Chapman from Safeline Jenny Chapman is an art therapist, who works at Safeline with people who have experienced sexual abuse. Jenny describes how art therapy and its
Podcast summary Episode 5 in conversation with Beth Candler from Safeline Beth is a person-centred therapist at Safeline. Her main work is as an Independent Sexual Violence Advisor, or ISVA. Beth describes her role as
Podcast summary Episode 4 In conversation with Shirley Smith from Safeline Shirley tells us about how she came to counselling and later trained as a person-centred psychotherapist. Shirley has worked in the Criminal Justice service
Podcast summary Episode 3 In conversation with Liz Welsh from Safeline Liz tells us about her role, which incudes overseeing counselling, and the ISVAs. Liz talks about how Safeline was started, when Di Shoreman, who
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